Hi Carl,
You might want to try out this utility I wrote today that automatically minimizes inactive Outlook windows every 60 seconds (you can control the time interval). It's called AutoMinimizeOutlook.exe: http://jonaquino.blogspot.com/2009/11/autominimizeoutlookexeworkaround-for.html
Jon
Does your server lag when you have outlook maximized? If it does then you really have to check for viruses and spywares, I would assume you are being attacked by a worm or some sort. If it does not lag, then its completely normal, when a windows application is minimized it frees up the memory usage.
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